Booking a gay honeymoon, or any romantic vacation at a primarily straight resort is fraught with potential for disaster. But few gay vacation options offer the array of resort choices or amenities that are available in the mainstream. There are a number of steps you can take to minimize the risk.

1) Choose a gay-friendly resort. Resorts that market to the gay community are your best bet; those that cater to a sophisticated, well-traveled clientele are another. Avoid family resorts in gay-unfriendly areas, like Jamaica or Grand Cayman.

2) Make sure your bedding requests precede you and that both names are on the reservation request. A note faxed from you or your travel agent to the front desk manager a day or two before your arrival can't hurt either.

Simply tell him or her that you and your spouse are on your honeymoon, that you want to make sure that they know your king or queen bed request is not a mistake, and that any special arrangements or consideration that would make your trip a memorable one would be greatly appreciated.

3) Be prepared to feel a bit conspicuous. No matter how comfortable you and your friends and family are, it is inevitable that some of the other resort guests (and staff, too) may be curious and fascinated.
Ignore them.
If anyone crosses the line and harasses you, report it directly to the general manager's office.

4) Tip well, early in your stay. Hotel staff take special care of big tippers. Budget an extra $10-30/day and spread it liberally.